I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.
Pablo Neruda
double exposure
Um…I’m sorry but this makes me sad. Am I the only person to find this to be slightly unhealthy? Who would want their boyfriend/girlfriend to revolve their schedule around themselves? No human being should ever be another’s everything. Doing literally everything together is no good either. You know what kind of dependency that creates? The not so good kind. Any kind of dependency on another human being isn’t healthy. And I’m sorry but texting me all day every day, and even while i’m sleeping, would be SO annoying. I’m sure the attention would be nice at first but honestly, I would most likely start to question whether or not this individual even has a life of his own.  I understand that most girls want the “perfect guy”..but i’m sorry to burst your bubble in saying that you’re never going to find him. Apart from Jesus Christ, no man has every been and ever will be perfect. Love is a choice. Love is about knowing a person’s flaws, accepting them, and choosing to love the person despite them. Girls - DO NOT look for a man for happiness, you will only end up hurt and disappointed in the end. Never give another person that kind of power over you, the kind of power where each little thing he does has the ability to either make or break you. No one should ever try to live up to perfection because they will fail time and time again. No one should ever put another person on a pedestal. SO many relationships nowadays are obsessive. The two individuals live for each other and feed off one another’s words and attention and I find that to be so sad. This is the very reason why people become heart broken so often and so easily. We put our hope in another flawless, sinful human being. There is not one person on earth who is incapable of hurting you or disappointing you in some way. We treat significant others as if this isn’t true, when it is. What happened to independence? The moment you put your happiness in a person of the opposite sex is the moment you lose that. You begin to lose yourself little by little in a relationship like this. You become obsessive. It’s inevitable over time.  Don’t get me wrong - I by no means condone any type of relationship where a girl is not treated like she should be. But there’s a huge difference in being treated right and having a guy obsess over you. I’m sorry but I would much rather be treated like a lady than have a guy worship me in any way. I by no means want that kind of pressure in a relationship. Heck no. No man is perfect, but that does not mean you should settle for one that is anything less than what you want. But remember, cut them a little slack, we mess up just as much as they do. No one is perfect - but everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.

— C.S. Lewis

ephemeraa: by Allison Schulnik